A Short Message to Employers Regarding Mental Health

Last summer, I worked for Whole Foods. You know, the aesthetically pleasing yet overpriced organic grocery store. I had a boss named Debbie. She was really kind and I loved the company I was working for. However, my mental illnesses made my job unbearable. I eventually decided that I needed to do what was best for me. The night before, I had felt so much anxiety about quitting. The next morning when I handed in my letter of resignation nervously and teary eyed, after only two months of working there, I told Debbie that I felt defeated because I was doing this. She replied with, “Saniyya, I said this the first time I met you, and I’m going to say it again. I think you’re awesome. If you ever feel defeated, whether that’s in a few weeks or when you’re 40, I want you to remember one thing. Remember that Debbie said you’re awesome.” Her saying that instantly empowered me. I felt less pressure and so much better. It was also a relief to hear that my mental health was actually genuinely prioritized and validated for once.

Dear employers: be like Debbie.

Here are some ways you can handle a resignation (regarding mental health) well:

1. Ask them what about the job made them uncomfortable/ what made them anxious, etc. (if they feel comfortable discussing it) – you can use this to help better shape the tasks and duties for future employees as well as see if and where your company can improve upon.

2. Tell them that you are upset to see them go, but completely understand because their mental health IS a priority. Have empathy, not pity.

3. Don’t lose your humanity. Try to understand where they are coming from. Don’t tell them that you are disappointed because of their decision to choose their feelings over an opportunity.

4. Offer to be a reference on their resume. (If they were a good employee and you can vouch for them, that is)

5. Wish your ex-employees well! Tell them you appreciated the work they have done and the spirit they brought to the team! Even a simple yet genuine: “ I think you’re really brave and I wish you the best of luck!” or “It takes a lot of courage to do this,” can be very up lifting