I feel like a burden.

It’s important to be comfortable confiding in your friends and loved ones, but it’s easy to fall into the habit of relying on them too much, ultimately straining your relationships.

First of all, it’s really amazing that you are considering someone else’s feelings and mental well being, as that is something that is usually cast aside. While “being a burden” is a strong phrase that may not describe your situation, it’s undeniable that unloading your daily troubles can place tension on your friendships and familial relationships. After repeatedly listening to people about the same issues, it can sometimes get old or feel like they are talking about themselves too much.

Ask your supporter if talking about a certain topic is okay. Do they feel comfortable talking about this? Will this topic be a trigger for them? Many people will tell you that it’s okay and that you can tell them anything. However, do keep in mind that everyone has emotions, feelings, and triggers. There’s a big difference between venting and confiding in someone when you don’t feel good vs. constantly dropping daily drama on them.

Don’t forget to ask your friends/family about them as well! How have you been doing? How’s your mental health? Is everything okay at home? I appreciate you listening to me.

All relationships have to possess a little of give and receive. There has to be reciprocity in all aspects – respect, appreciation, love, compassion, love, empathy, and loyalty on both ends.

When you’re going through a rough patch or suffering from a severe mental illness, you may tend to do a little more of the getting than giving. Just make sure your supporter knows that you aren’t in a position to give a lot right now.

With all of that being said, no matter how good or bad your current situation is, it is essential that you have a good support system! If you feel the need to talk more deeply about your life and are hoping to get some advice, answers, or guidance, consider seeing a psychologist or life coach. – they’re trained and experienced. This may improve your relationships with others by helping you keep healthy boundaries. Your support system will also benefit from this stress relief.

You can still vent and have normal deep conversations with your friends/support system; in fact, it’s encouraged! But just be mindful of the person to whom you’re venting. Chances are, they are not professionals or trained in listening to potentially triggering or overwhelming matters.

Don’t let this discourage you from reaching out to a trusted friend/family member if you’re feeling under the weather! We need to be there for each other and if you truly have a good support system, they will tell you when it’s too much for them.