The importance of balancing respect and compassion for all simultaneously: How to NOT be an asshole

1. Don’t talk down to yourself

Be kind & don’t say hurtful things to yourself like: “I’m so dumb”, “ I’m so stupid i forgot to _________”, etc. Cut yourself some slack! Nobody is perfect in all their actions. Instead, try saying things like: “Whoops,I forgot to do this _________. Next time I should keep a reminder on my phone so I don’t forget!”, etc!

2. Don’t take everything personally

A lot of the time, things that others do, have NOTHING to do with you! Don’t get me wrong, sometimes they do… but also like… the whole world aint out to get you... so try not to get offended! When dealing with everyday encounters, it can be helpful to focus on the bigger picture or the grand scheme of things. It is important to be aware and sensitive but try to balance that with strength.

3. Stop trying to read minds

First off, you are not telepathic… so stop trying to be. Simple n plain. Jumping to conclusions only creates icky situations for everyone. You do not know the truth behind one’s intentions, actions, and feelings so don’t resort to making assumptions. At the end of the day, everyone is just trying to try their best!

Check yourself:

• Sometimes you are the toxic person

• Sometimes you are the negative one

• Sometimes the problem is you

• And that doesn’t make you less worthy

• Keep growing

• Keep checking yourself

• Mistakes are opportunities - look at them, acknowledge them & then move on

• You’re human, it's okay to be wrong at times

Put yourself first without hurting others, toxicity diminishes self growth!

About all you can do in life is to be who you are. Some people will love you for you. Most will love you for what you can do for them, and some won’t like you at all. - Rita Mae Brown

Power on, my friends.